"I don’t come to this work from theory
I come from the fire"

For years, I carried deep wounds from a fractured relationship with my father.

Like a lot of men, I learned early on to disconnect—from my emotions, from other men, and from any version of masculinity that didn’t involve anger, control, or shutdown.

 

Eventually, that disconnection caught up with me.

 

My own actions — specifically infidelity — almost destroyed a relationship that means the world to me.

That moment didn’t just shake me; it cracked me wide open.

It stripped away the stories, the justifications, the ego — and left me staring at the raw truth of who I was becoming.

 

I had to choose: keep running from myself, or turn and face the fire.

 

That reckoning became a turning point — not just in my growth as a man, but in learning what it truly means to show up as a partner.

I’m still in that relationship today — and I carry deep gratitude for the chance to rebuild, not just trust, but a new foundation rooted in honesty, humility, and love.

 

Since then, I’ve committed to a different path.

One guided by integrity, self-responsibility, and presence.

 

I’ve done the work of facing my shadows, owning my story, and learning to lead myself from the inside out.

 

I know the ache of separation.

 

I’ve experienced the pain of divorce.

I know what it feels like to be separated from your child—not just emotionally, but by geography.

 

My daughter lives overseas, and the ache of not being in the day-to-day of her life is something I carry every single day.

I understand the guilt, the longing, the frustration—and the discipline it takes to stay connected across distance.

 

That experience has shaped me as a father and as a man.

It’s deepened my compassion for the struggles men face—and it’s strengthened my commitment to showing up with honesty, clarity, and heart.

 

I’m also a step-parent.

 

A role I never expected—but now can’t imagine my life without.

 

It’s been one of the most rewarding and humbling parts of my journey as a man.

 

Over time, I’ve had the privilege of building trust with young people who now feel safe enough to show up fully as themselves—not just at home, but out in the world.

 

That has reminded me that family isn’t just about biology—it’s about the safety we create together.

 

It’s taught me patience, presence, and how powerful it is to simply hold space—to be consistent, grounded, and emotionally available in a way I wasn’t always taught to be.

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What I Believe About Relationship

 

Being in a relationship isn’t just about companionship.

 

It’s about stepping into a space where your edges get softened and your blind spots revealed.

It invites you to borrow someone else’s lens—to see yourself not through the harsh filters of shame or survival, but through eyes that hold you with curiosity, care, and possibility.

 

In that shared space of unknowing, a new kind of self-acceptance can take root—not because you’re being fixed, but because you’re being seen.

 

Relationship becomes the mirror and the medicine.

It challenges you to grow, yes—but also to stay, to soften, to allow.

And in doing so, it opens the door to becoming someone you never knew you could be.

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Why I Created Men to Be

 

I created Men to Be because I believe this work matters.

 

Because I’ve seen firsthand what happens when a man stops hiding and starts getting real—with himself, with his brothers, and with his life.

 

This isn’t about perfection.

It’s about presence.

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What You Can Expect Working With Me

 

When you work with me, you’ll be met with truth—not judgment.

 

You’ll be challenged.

You’ll be supported.

And you’ll be reminded that your vulnerability isn’t a weakness—it’s a weapon.

One that cuts through the noise and gets to what’s real.

 

Together, we’ll look at the stories, patterns, and beliefs that have shaped you—and start building the life you were meant to lead.